There is a saying, which we all know: “What doesn’t kill you make you stronger.” It is so popular that we hear this quote even in songs and movies, too. The song ‘Stronger’ is the first song that comes into my mind when I hear this quote.
“…N-n-now that that don’t kill me
Can only make me stronger…”
It is a common thing for humans to feel pain. Pain is the emotion that makes a human ‘alive’. Besides happiness, we even need pain in our lives. Cause that is the way we can feel the emotion of ‘happiness’. In life, the true happiness comes from the inside. It doesn’t depend on anybody, or anyone. One who feels that she/he/they can achieve happiness without any other substantial material, is the one who reached through the state of wisdom.
A new study has found that what doesn’t kill us doesn’t make us stronger. I was talking to my mum, and she suggested the idea: ‘Maybe what doesn’t kill us doesn’t make us stronger, it just makes us become tolerant to the pain?’. So I thought about this for a while. Maybe it is the pain that we’re living, that makes us become durable to the other type of pains in life.
Think about a moment. Think about a moment, or a duration of time where you felt this immense pain. Think about those times where you felt like this pain won’t make you live and feel again. But you survived, right? You survived all the painful emotions and now you’ve moved on. You’ve healed.
What I am questioning here is, does this development will make you stronger, or you just become tolerant to the exquisite pain?
According to Wood (2020), past stressors sensitize people to future coming traumas, and those traumas also increase the chances of developing a mental health disorder.
With this reference, I am asking you right now: “Does what doesn’t kill you make you stronger or make you become tolerant to the pain?”
As it is natural for humans to feel pain, it is less accepted in Western cultures to feel and share our pain, also going to a psychologist etc. This act seems to be ‘weak’. But in Eastern cultures pain is needed to become a wise person. Remember the Budist approach: You liberate yourself and reach a condition of transcendent bliss and wellbeing by developing a mental state that allows you to separate from all of the desires, demands, and wants of life.
With all said above, now it is your turn to decide whether the pain will make you become stronger, or you just become tolerant to it. I will be excepting your comments below.